Why is this? Why do we constantly fail to be compassionate with ourselves even when we seem to be able to offer it to others? Why do we find it so hard to find a compassionate voice amongst our emotional traffic? Why do we consider ourselves not good enough, unlovable, unworthy?…
Since the beginning of the year, I have been running various online therapy groups for codependency. Many of these groups have renewed to learn more about the subject. The result has been fantastic and people have been very pleased about creating a dynamic with other members of the group…
In my recent podcast about the Drama Triangle in codependent relationships, I explained how the triangle of dysfunction that includes rescuing, persecution and victim status was used to control a codependent object…
I am unfortunately dealing with a few messy divorce cases at present. I say unfortunately because it is never positive when a marriage breaks down. In these cases, however, positive will come later when the effects of divorcing extremely self-centred people subside…
Have you ever wondered what’s up with the man who spends all his time in the office instead of with his partner? Or that girl who never has a relationship longer than six months before she ends it and runs away? …
The idea of control by codependents is one that is often overlooked when discussing relationships. We try to understand why people are targeted by self centered individuals and the affects of that (rightly so) but the idea that the codependent is controlling as well is not as easy to see…
A staggering amount of my clients who identify as codependent and are in a relationship with a self-centered or abusive partner have attempted couples therapy…
These heady moments we all encounter at the start of a new relationship mean that our general caution and common sense suddenly abandon us…
Codependency is a thinking and behavioral problem. Codependents buy into the idea, promoted by acquired shame, that they are unlovable …