Conflict Management For The Codependent
The aim of this post is to evidence how difficult codependents find it to set boundaries, stand up for themselves or engage in effective conflict management.
August 29, 2022
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How To Spot The Manipulator In Your Life (And Keep Them Out)
What do you do if you are being subjected to some or all of the above? Find the courage to leave as soon as possible and close the door tightly. Manipulators (who could also be undiagnosed sociopaths or narcissists) will likely never change and you will continue to enable their behaviour by accepting what they dish out. The price to pay will be your self-esteem, your identity and you will learn that your needs are not important.
August 22, 2022
The Path To Freedom: The End Is Nigh
I am happier at this point than I have been for many years and I have added capacity for self-love which also helps me to love others.
August 11, 2022
Once Your Narcissist Is Gone, Shut The Door (But Your Children May Be A Complication)
Once they are gone, even if they were the one who did the discarding, it is important to know that unless action is taken, they will never really be gone. They will always reserve the right to come back and tap into their ‘supply’ again, creating chaos all over again.
July 21, 2022
Why The Vast Majority Of Codependents Are Women
Where women are concerned, much of this behavior comes from conditioning. They see their parents behaving in the same way and see this as a blueprint for relationships. This socialization starts almost from birth.
July 7, 2022
The Path To Freedom: The Drama Triangle
Karpman’s Drama Triangle describes dysfunctional relationships where the people in the relationship shift between three roles, Persecutor, Rescuer, and Victim, all held in place by guilt and blame.
June 27, 2022
How To Get Over A Bad Breakup: The Six Most Important Factors
If it was a bad break-up, that is that one partner was surprised or there was a general lack of communication and respect, then the process can be extremely traumatic for all concerned. How you handle it afterwards will largely depend on you as an individual, your coping mechanisms and your willingness to move forward.
June 22, 2022
The Path To Freedom: Life Is Too Short For Codependency
I have realised that building a golden cage is no guarantee that the person inside it is going to be happy being there and may want to spread their wings at times. I have also hurt others with my codependency and my expectations of them.
June 9, 2022
The Path To Freedom: The Role Of The Inner Child
I made a connection at that time that has persevered. My 13 year old self is with me most days. It’s hard sometimes when I am triggered into feeling the same as he did but I get through it by talking to him in a way that nobody did at the time. He has trouble trusting what people say to him to be true but I try to be consistent and build trust.
May 30, 2022