Walk The Road To The New You
Welcome to Dr Nicholas Jenner’s online therapy hub dedicated to codependent recovery. Explore the wealth of resources available to start your path to recovery.
WHO IS IT FOR?
If you suffer from some or all of the following, you could be codependent: low self-esteem, people pleasing, poor boundary setting, caretaking, control issues, dysfunctional communication style, problems with intimacy, denial and painful emotions. Therapy can help people understand why they overcompensate, fulfill everyone’s needs but their own, or put themselves last.
WHO IS IT FOR?
If you suffer from some or all of the following, you could be codependent: low self-esteem, people pleasing, poor boundary setting, caretaking, control issues, dysfunctional communication style, problems with intimacy, denial and painful emotions. Therapy can help people understand why they overcompensate, fulfill everyone’s needs but their own, or put themselves last.
WHO IS IT FOR?
If you suffer from some or all of the following, you could be codependent: low self-esteem, people pleasing, poor boundary setting, caretaking, control issues, dysfunctional communication style, problems with intimacy, denial and painful emotions. Therapy can help people understand why they overcompensate, fulfill everyone’s needs but their own, or put themselves last.
THE THERAPY HUB
Effective Treatment
Dr Jenner has dealt with codependents for many years and he has found that combining two therapies, powerful individually but life-changing when used together, to be truly effective: Inner Child and Internal Family Systems therapy.
Group Therapy
As a codependent, it is easy to feel alone with the issues that keep you trapped in specific thinking patterns. Sometimes, it is good to share this with others in the same situation. Online group therapy can do this.
Individual Therapy
Codependency symptoms are as individual as you are and special solutions need to be found. Individual therapy is tailored made to your issues in an action based program. Free initial 60 minute consultation.
FREE RESOURCES
Don’t Process A Break-up With An Abusive Ex
Let’s be honest. Break-ups are a nasty business.
Give Up The Give To Get. I Have And It Works
So what action am I taking? The list might seem like normal buzzwords from a self-help book but read on.
Living With A Codependent Is Never Easy
I wonder how many of us create a version of ourselves that is lovable enough be accepted while subduing othger parts of ourselves?
New Podcast: How To Truly Raise Your Self-Esteem
Listen as I discuss living consciously, finding self-acceptance, living responsibly and living an authentic life.
New Podcast: The Path To Freedom. The Sum Of My Parts
My ongoing Path To Freedom continues
On The Subject Of Boundaries
For a variety of reasons, it is very often very difficult for some people to even think about the value of boundaries. Some have never been exposed to healthy boundaries and have no idea when and how to set them.
On The Subject Of Emotional Honesty
It is commonly believed that healthy relationships are built on a foundation of honesty and open communication between the parties involved.
What It Means To Be A Controlling Codependent
The public’s perception of narcissists is often negative, and with good reason.
Don’t Process A Break-up With An Abusive Ex
Let’s be honest. Break-ups are a nasty business.
New Podcast: The Path To Freedom. The Sum Of My Parts
My ongoing Path To Freedom continues
On The Subject Of Boundaries
For a variety of reasons, it is very often very difficult for some people to even think about the value of boundaries. Some have never
The One “Self” That is Important To Influence
It’s called self-talk, emotional traffic, inner conflict, internal family. It is important to recognise this.
Two Codependents Together? Could It Ever Work?
So what is to be done? When I come across codependents, many of them are either out of a relationship (claiming they will never have another) or have realised somewhat belatedly that the person they are with is not the right one for them and they are looking to leave, (often the biggest battle).
Conflict Management For The Codependent
The aim of this post is to evidence how difficult codependents find it to set boundaries, stand up for themselves or engage in effective conflict management.
New Podcast: The Mental Health Round Up Special: Relationships
In the second episode of the Mental Health Round Up, I talk about something dear to all of us: Relationships. Listen as I discuss how relationships can go spectacularly wrong or be everything we ever wanted. I talk about the foundations of good relationships and what factors can destroy them. Finally, I discuss how couples therapy can help people decide their futures.
How To Spot The Manipulator In Your Life (And Keep Them Out)
What do you do if you are being subjected to some or all of the above? Find the courage to leave as soon as possible and close the door tightly. Manipulators (who could also be undiagnosed sociopaths or narcissists) will likely never change and you will continue to enable their behaviour by accepting what they dish out. The price to pay will be your self-esteem, your identity and you will learn that your needs are not important.
The Path To Freedom: The End Is Nigh
I am happier at this point than I have been for many years and I have added capacity for self-love which also helps me to love others.
Podcast: Codependency Stories Episode Two: Nancy
Meet Nancy who has recently found out she is codependent. This helped her to understand better her marriage. A marriage that was affected by infidelity,
Dr Jenner has been writing about codependency and mental health for many years. In this time, he has built up a bank of resources that he provides free access to. Discover articles here on all aspects of codependency, narcissism, child development and relationships. This section is regularly updated and contains a link to his other mental health blog. Please follow for even more content.
On The Subject Of Emotional Honesty
It is commonly believed that healthy relationships are built on a foundation of honesty and open communication between the parties involved.
What It Means To Be A Controlling Codependent
The public’s perception of narcissists is often negative, and with good reason.
Don’t Process A Break-up With An Abusive Ex
Let’s be honest. Break-ups are a nasty business.
New Podcast: The Path To Freedom. The Sum Of My Parts
My ongoing Path To Freedom continues
On The Subject Of Boundaries
For a variety of reasons, it is very often very difficult for some people to even think about the value of boundaries. Some have never
The One “Self” That is Important To Influence
It’s called self-talk, emotional traffic, inner conflict, internal family. It is important to recognise this.
Don’t Process A Break-up With An Abusive Ex
Let’s be honest. Break-ups are a nasty business.
Give Up The Give To Get. I Have And It Works
So what action am I taking? The list might seem like normal buzzwords from a self-help book but read on.
Living With A Codependent Is Never Easy
I wonder how many of us create a version of ourselves that is lovable enough be accepted while subduing othger parts of ourselves?
New Podcast: How To Truly Raise Your Self-Esteem
Listen as I discuss living consciously, finding self-acceptance, living responsibly and living an authentic life.
New Podcast: The Path To Freedom. The Sum Of My Parts
My ongoing Path To Freedom continues
On The Subject Of Boundaries
For a variety of reasons, it is very often very difficult for some people to even think about the value of boundaries. Some have never been exposed to healthy boundaries and have no idea when and how to set them.
Once Your Narcissist Is Gone, Shut The Door (But Your Children May Be A Complication)
Once they are gone, even if they were the one who did the discarding, it is important to know that unless action is taken, they will never really be gone. They will always reserve the right to come back and tap into their ‘supply’ again, creating chaos all over again.
New Podcast: Living With Codependency-Latisha
Just what is it like to be codependent? In the first of a series of podcast titled “Living with Codependency”, we meet Latisha who talks about her life as a codependent, her relationships and her childhood.
Why The Vast Majority Of Codependents Are Women
Where women are concerned, much of this behavior comes from conditioning. They see their parents behaving in the same way and see this as a blueprint for relationships. This socialization starts almost from birth.
The Path To Freedom: The Drama Triangle
Karpman’s Drama Triangle describes dysfunctional relationships where the people in the relationship shift between three roles, Persecutor, Rescuer, and Victim, all held in place by guilt and blame.
How To Get Over A Bad Breakup: The Six Most Important Factors
If it was a bad break-up, that is that one partner was surprised or there was a general lack of communication and respect, then the process can be extremely traumatic for all concerned. How you handle it afterwards will largely depend on you as an individual, your coping mechanisms and your willingness to move forward.
The Path To Freedom: Life Is Too Short For Codependency
I have realised that building a golden cage is no guarantee that the person inside it is going to be happy being there and may want to spread their wings at times. I have also hurt others with my codependency and my expectations of them.
Dr Jenner has been writing about codependency and mental health for many years. In this time, he has built up a bank of resources that he provides free access to. Discover articles here on all aspects of codependency, narcissism, child development and relationships. This section is regularly updated and contains a link to his other mental health blog. Please follow for even more content.
Dr Jenner has found that many of his clients enjoy listening to audio content as they go about their lives. Please find here a range of podcasts on codependency, how it is formed and how codependents behave in relationships.
