Walk The Road To The New You
Welcome to Dr Nicholas Jenner’s online therapy hub dedicated to codependent recovery. Explore the wealth of resources available to start your path to recovery.
WHO IS IT FOR?
If you suffer from some or all of the following, you could be codependent: low self-esteem, people pleasing, poor boundary setting, caretaking, control issues, dysfunctional communication style, problems with intimacy, denial and painful emotions. Therapy can help people understand why they overcompensate, fulfill everyone’s needs but their own, or put themselves last.
WHO IS IT FOR?
If you suffer from some or all of the following, you could be codependent: low self-esteem, people pleasing, poor boundary setting, caretaking, control issues, dysfunctional communication style, problems with intimacy, denial and painful emotions. Therapy can help people understand why they overcompensate, fulfill everyone’s needs but their own, or put themselves last.
WHO IS IT FOR?
If you suffer from some or all of the following, you could be codependent: low self-esteem, people pleasing, poor boundary setting, caretaking, control issues, dysfunctional communication style, problems with intimacy, denial and painful emotions. Therapy can help people understand why they overcompensate, fulfill everyone’s needs but their own, or put themselves last.
THE THERAPY HUB
Effective Treatment
Dr Jenner has dealt with codependents for many years and he has found that combining two therapies, powerful individually but life-changing when used together, to be truly effective: Inner Child and Internal Family Systems therapy.
Group Therapy
As a codependent, it is easy to feel alone with the issues that keep you trapped in specific thinking patterns. Sometimes, it is good to share this with others in the same situation. Online group therapy can do this.
Individual Therapy
Codependency symptoms are as individual as you are and special solutions need to be found. Individual therapy is tailored made to your issues in an action based program. Free initial 60 minute consultation.
FREE RESOURCES
Conflict Management For The Codependent
The aim of this post is to evidence how difficult codependents find it to set boundaries, stand up for themselves or engage in effective conflict management. If you have been led to believe that you and your beliefs and needs are not worth anything, what have you got toi stand up for?
Give Up The Give To Get. I Have And It Works
So what action am I taking? The list might seem like normal buzzwords from a self-help book but read on. They are working for me and they might just work for you.
How To Spot The Manipulator In Your Life (And Keep Them Out)
What do you do if you are being subjected to some or all of the above? Find the courage to leave as soon as possible and close the door tightly. Manipulators (who could also be undiagnosed sociopaths or narcissists) will likely never change and you will continue to enable their behaviour by accepting what they dish out. The price to pay will be your self-esteem, your identity and you will learn that your needs are not important.
Living With A Codependent Is Never Easy
I wonder how many of us create a version of ourselves that is lovable enough to keep the relationship going while subduing healthier independent parts of ourselves? I believe it is a struggle that codependents face on a daily basis. Just who am I? Or more usual, who should I be? How can we be accepted when in reality, we find it hard to accept ourselves?
New Podcast: How To Truly Raise Your Self-Esteem
Listen as I discuss living consciously, finding self-acceptance, living responsibly and living an authentic life.
New Podcast: Living With Codependency-Latisha
Just what is it like to be codependent? In the first of a series of podcast titled “Living with Codependency”, we meet Latisha who talks about her life as a codependent, her relationships and her childhood.
Give Up The Give To Get. I Have And It Works
So what action am I taking? The list might seem like normal buzzwords from a self-help book but read on. They are working for me
Living With A Codependent Is Never Easy
I wonder how many of us create a version of ourselves that is lovable enough to keep the relationship going while subduing healthier independent parts
New Podcast: How To Truly Raise Your Self-Esteem
Listen as I discuss living consciously, finding self-acceptance, living responsibly and living an authentic life.
Two Codependents Together? Could It Ever Work?
So what is to be done? When I come across codependents, many of them are either out of a relationship (claiming they will never have
Conflict Management For The Codependent
The aim of this post is to evidence how difficult codependents find it to set boundaries, stand up for themselves or engage in effective conflict
New Podcast: The Mental Health Round Up Special: Relationships
In the second episode of the Mental Health Round Up, I talk about something dear to all of us: Relationships. Listen as I discuss how
The Path To Freedom: The End Is Nigh
I am happier at this point than I have been for many years and I have added capacity for self-love which also helps me to love others.
Podcast: Codependency Stories Episode Two: Nancy
Meet Nancy who has recently found out she is codependent. This helped her to understand better her marriage. A marriage that was affected by infidelity,
Once Your Narcissist Is Gone, Shut The Door (But Your Children May Be A Complication)
Once they are gone, even if they were the one who did the discarding, it is important to know that unless action is taken, they will never really be gone. They will always reserve the right to come back and tap into their ‘supply’ again, creating chaos all over again.
Why The Vast Majority Of Codependents Are Women
Where women are concerned, much of this behavior comes from conditioning. They see their parents behaving in the same way and see this as a blueprint for relationships. This socialization starts almost from birth.
The Path To Freedom: The Drama Triangle
Karpman’s Drama Triangle describes dysfunctional relationships where the people in the relationship shift between three roles, Persecutor, Rescuer, and Victim, all held in place by guilt and blame.
How To Get Over A Bad Breakup: The Six Most Important Factors
If it was a bad break-up, that is that one partner was surprised or there was a general lack of communication and respect, then the process can be extremely traumatic for all concerned. How you handle it afterwards will largely depend on you as an individual, your coping mechanisms and your willingness to move forward.
Dr Jenner has been writing about codependency and mental health for many years. In this time, he has built up a bank of resources that he provides free access to. Discover articles here on all aspects of codependency, narcissism, child development and relationships. This section is regularly updated and contains a link to his other mental health blog. Please follow for even more content.
Give Up The Give To Get. I Have And It Works
So what action am I taking? The list might seem like normal buzzwords from a self-help book but read on. They are working for me
Living With A Codependent Is Never Easy
I wonder how many of us create a version of ourselves that is lovable enough to keep the relationship going while subduing healthier independent parts
New Podcast: How To Truly Raise Your Self-Esteem
Listen as I discuss living consciously, finding self-acceptance, living responsibly and living an authentic life.
Two Codependents Together? Could It Ever Work?
So what is to be done? When I come across codependents, many of them are either out of a relationship (claiming they will never have
Conflict Management For The Codependent
The aim of this post is to evidence how difficult codependents find it to set boundaries, stand up for themselves or engage in effective conflict
New Podcast: The Mental Health Round Up Special: Relationships
In the second episode of the Mental Health Round Up, I talk about something dear to all of us: Relationships. Listen as I discuss how
Conflict Management For The Codependent
The aim of this post is to evidence how difficult codependents find it to set boundaries, stand up for themselves or engage in effective conflict management. If you have been led to believe that you and your beliefs and needs are not worth anything, what have you got toi stand up for?
Give Up The Give To Get. I Have And It Works
So what action am I taking? The list might seem like normal buzzwords from a self-help book but read on. They are working for me and they might just work for you.
How To Spot The Manipulator In Your Life (And Keep Them Out)
What do you do if you are being subjected to some or all of the above? Find the courage to leave as soon as possible and close the door tightly. Manipulators (who could also be undiagnosed sociopaths or narcissists) will likely never change and you will continue to enable their behaviour by accepting what they dish out. The price to pay will be your self-esteem, your identity and you will learn that your needs are not important.
Living With A Codependent Is Never Easy
I wonder how many of us create a version of ourselves that is lovable enough to keep the relationship going while subduing healthier independent parts of ourselves? I believe it is a struggle that codependents face on a daily basis. Just who am I? Or more usual, who should I be? How can we be accepted when in reality, we find it hard to accept ourselves?
New Podcast: How To Truly Raise Your Self-Esteem
Listen as I discuss living consciously, finding self-acceptance, living responsibly and living an authentic life.
New Podcast: Living With Codependency-Latisha
Just what is it like to be codependent? In the first of a series of podcast titled “Living with Codependency”, we meet Latisha who talks about her life as a codependent, her relationships and her childhood.
The Path To Freedom: Life Is Too Short For Codependency
I have realised that building a golden cage is no guarantee that the person inside it is going to be happy being there and may want to spread their wings at times. I have also hurt others with my codependency and my expectations of them.
The Path To Freedom: The Role Of The Inner Child
I made a connection at that time that has persevered. My 13 year old self is with me most days. It’s hard sometimes when I am triggered into feeling the same as he did but I get through it by talking to him in a way that nobody did at the time. He has trouble trusting what people say to him to be true but I try to be consistent and build trust.
Are You With That Certain Someone?: It Might Be Neurological
We all love the so-called ’honeymoon phase’ where everything and everyone is perfect. This is associated with the early part of a new relationship where
On Being A Therapist: Avoiding The Codependency Trap
I once read an article that stated that the average therapist is closer to the narcissist end of the spectrum than the codependent. It stated that a lot of therapists have a ’God-like’ complex concerning the power they have. Though I have heard some real horror stories in my time as a supervisor and in general conversation with other therapists, I dont believe it to be generally true.
An Honest Update On My Path To Freedom
I’ve done an excellent job of explaining how things work to others, but I’ve done a poor job of following my own advice at times. With my self-disclosure, I’m hoping that it may be able to assist or encourage others who are going through similar situations.
Codependency: How Wrong I Was Back Then
You can live with codependency if you are aware of how it affects you and you deal with it in your conscious mind.
Dr Jenner has been writing about codependency and mental health for many years. In this time, he has built up a bank of resources that he provides free access to. Discover articles here on all aspects of codependency, narcissism, child development and relationships. This section is regularly updated and contains a link to his other mental health blog. Please follow for even more content.
Dr Jenner has found that many of his clients enjoy listening to audio content as they go about their lives. Please find here a range of podcasts on codependency, how it is formed and how codependents behave in relationships.
