Many codependent relationships are built around being needed rather than truly known. This article explores how people gradually lose their sense of self through emotional over-focus on others, why calm relationships can feel unsettling, and how recovery begins by reconnecting with your own identity, needs, feelings and internal world.
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For anyone with codependent tendencies, self care is not a concept that comes easy. Used to giving and not receiving, it can be difficult to
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Anti-codependency is not about becoming self-centred. It is about returning to an adult stance in your own life. Autonomy means you can stay connected without disappearing into the other person.
They “protect” us dysfunctionally to keep us from moving forward and offer us the easy way out. They offer us the easy way out and it seems often to be the best option at the time. Only through a process of releasing the control they have, can we promote the Self and have any hope of facing the true issues. Let’s look at the different types that could exist, no way exhaustive and there could be others:
On the whole, I manage my codependency well now but occasionally it catches me out. I forgive myself for this and move on. I can move on because I have good awareness of when, how and why my codependency shows and as such, know what action to take. The action is to identify the parts of me that are present and what they are protecting me from.
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