The Drama Triangle: A Key Element Of Codependent Control
I have often documented here how much control exists in codependent thinking. In contrast to their nemesis (someone with narcissist tendencies), codependents are generally nice people who are willing…
Codependents Involved With Narcissists: Life After Narcissism – Further Toxic Or Nourishing? It Is Your Choice!
What comes next when your worst nightmare is over? Many codependents who manage to extract themselves from toxic or narcissistic relationships are often left with this question…
Codependency: “I Know It Logically But Emotionally, I Don’t Get It”!
Many codependents I work with are stuck in relationships that are abusive, unfulfilling and going nowhere. The sad thing is that they are also going nowhere and stay when they know they should logically leave. Somehow they cannot muster the courage to do it…
Codependents Involved With Narcissists: Why Would You Let Anyone Treat You Like That?
As a therapist and a person who deals in reality and common sense in my own life, it is hard to see some of the decisions that other people make in the name of love and devotion…
Codependency: How to Reparent Yourself With An Adult That Has Been Exiled
We have a real problem with staying the moment and for some, it is unfamiliar territory. For some others, it is dangerous territory where reality bites…
Codependents Involved With Narcissists – The Three Stages of Narcissist Relationships: A Roller-Coaster Ride
Narcissists are the archetypal Jekyll and Hyde characters, one way one moment, one way the next. A roller-coaster ride for anyone involved with them. When we become involved in a new relationship…
Codependents: It’s Ok Not To Forgive Your Toxic Parents
The headline is perhaps a confusing one to anyone who has experienced trauma and abuse in their life. The helping professions are full of practitioners who deal in the art of forgiveness…
Should You Bother Trying To Set Boundaries With A Narcissist?
I talk a lot about boundaries. I believe they are the foundation of a healthy relationship. Setting boundaries means being emotionally honest, assertive and it means protect your emotional and physical space. Boundaries maintained and with appropriate consequences teach people in a healthy way how you want to be treated…
Thinking Of Yourself Is Not Narcissism. Your Needs Are Important And It Starts With You
There is a fine line between meeting your own needs in a healthy sense and expecting to take everything around you. This is the fundamental line that many find difficult to navigate and feel guilt and shame when they try to think of themselves…