Why Codependents Accept Abuse: They Are Attached To The Conceptualised Self.
In the course of our lives, we gather a lot of information about who we are. It starts in childhood and is a continuous process. The most powerful information we receive is that given to us by caregivers at a time in our lives when we are like “sponges” and we take it all in to form a blueprint for life. Sometimes the information is not correct or based on caregivers’ own perceptions of the world but it still comes our way and we believe it…
You Are Not Flawed Because Your Parents Let You Down. Codependency In Context
As someone who deals regularly with the concept of codependency, it means I have to deal with the concepts of child development too. Let’s face it, the way we grow up, where and who with, are all major factors in the root cause and development of codependency as a behavioral issue…
Not All Group Therapy Is The Same
I am just about to start a new round of group therapy for codependency. I have been running them since the beginning of the year and I have enjoyed them. I believe the participants felt the same…
Codependency Is A Connection Issue. Watch The Honeymoon Period!
A short search on the internet will find you a whole array of information on and descriptions of codependency. I actually did just that before starting here and found it defined as “the love addiction” or “codependency personality disorder”…
Enmeshment Means Codependents Lose Themselves
Codependency is not something you can take a pill for. It is not something that you can quickly shed like a winter jacket. Codependency is an issue that starts early in life and will continue until an awareness and will is found to change things…
We Can Be So Hard On Ourselves
Why is this? Why do we constantly fail to be compassionate with ourselves even when we seem to be able to offer it to others? Why do we find it so hard to find a compassionate voice amongst our emotional traffic? Why do we consider ourselves not good enough, unlovable, unworthy?…
Join Me On October 3rd For Online Group Therapy For Codependent Recovery
Since the beginning of the year, I have been running various online therapy groups for codependency. Many of these groups have renewed to learn more about the subject. The result has been fantastic and people have been very pleased about creating a dynamic with other members of the group…
Codependency: Stop Controlling By Breaking Free Of The Drama Triangle
In my recent podcast about the Drama Triangle in codependent relationships, I explained how the triangle of dysfunction that includes rescuing, persecution and victim status was used to control a codependent object…
Divorcing An Egomaniac Follows A Familiar Pattern
I am unfortunately dealing with a few messy divorce cases at present. I say unfortunately because it is never positive when a marriage breaks down. In these cases, however, positive will come later when the effects of divorcing extremely self-centred people subside…