Codependency: Using The Right Tools To Heal
Codependency is a thinking and behavioral problem. Codependents buy into the idea, promoted by acquired shame, that they are unlovable …
Reflections on Group Therapy And The Need For Psychological Flexibility
I often ask myself that why it is that anxiety and depression are so common in a modern world where we should theoretically, be more content than we are. In comparison to fifty years ago, we should all be in peak physical and mental health…
Where Narcissists And Codependents Share Common Ground
Much of the content available online paint narcissists as monsters and codependents as victims. As most of the personal blogs that carry this content are seemingly written by people who have had a relationship with a narcissist that went badly, it is hardly surprising that they feel hard done by…
If You Are Codependent, Please Read
One of the reasons I work happily with codependents is that I am one myself with symptoms to a large extent worked through…
Family Theory Is An Important Consideration In Codependency And Shame
In therapy and especially with codependents, much time is spent trying to discover things. This includes why we act like we do, think like we do and we fall in love with the people we do…
Insights From Codependency Group Therapy
I am currently running a number of therapy groups. Being in a group for therapy is different to being an individual in therapy and the dynamic is different. Where in individual therapy…
Codependency: “Me Time” Is An Essential Part Of Any Relationship
Many people feel threatened when their partner asks for “space”. The immediate thought might be that they are ending the relationship or it is heading in the wrong direction…
How To Recover From Codependency: Find That Part Of You That Was Lost
Codependents gain a lot of strength from what they do for others. In fact, it is an essential process for them if they are to feel good about themselves. It is a never-ending quest for connection that unless unchecked…
Codependency: Emotional Manipulators – The Case For Locking The Door
I have seen many times a situation that is very frustrating for me as a therapist. Working with codependents, it is often advisable to ensure their recovery is not hampered by contact with an abusive, manipulative ex-partner…