Why Codependents Accept Abuse: They Are Attached To The Conceptualised Self.

In the course of our lives, we gather a lot of information about who we are. It starts in childhood and is a continuous process. The most powerful information we receive is that given to us by caregivers at a time in our lives when we are like “sponges” and we take it all in to form a blueprint for life. Sometimes the information is not correct or based on caregivers’ own perceptions of the world but it still comes our way and we believe it…

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Not All Group Therapy Is The Same

I am just about to start a new round of group therapy for codependency. I have been running them since the beginning of the year and I have enjoyed them. I believe the participants felt the same…

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Enmeshment Means Codependents Lose Themselves

Codependency is not something you can take a pill for. It is not something that you can quickly shed like a winter jacket. Codependency is an issue that starts early in life and will continue until an awareness and will is found to change things…

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We Can Be So Hard On Ourselves

Why is this? Why do we constantly fail to be compassionate with ourselves even when we seem to be able to offer it to others? Why do we find it so hard to find a compassionate voice amongst our emotional traffic? Why do we consider ourselves not good enough, unlovable, unworthy?…

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Divorcing An Egomaniac Follows A Familiar Pattern

I am unfortunately dealing with a few messy divorce cases at present. I say unfortunately because it is never positive when a marriage breaks down. In these cases, however, positive will come later when the effects of divorcing extremely self-centred people subside…

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