Divorcing An Egomaniac Follows A Familiar Pattern
I am unfortunately dealing with a few messy divorce cases at present. I say unfortunately because it is never positive when a marriage breaks down. In these cases, however, positive will come later when the effects of divorcing extremely self-centred people subside…
Let’s Talk About Counter-Dependency: It’s Not Narcissism
Have you ever wondered what’s up with the man who spends all his time in the office instead of with his partner? Or that girl who never has a relationship longer than six months before she ends it and runs away? …
Understanding That Codependency Is About Control
The idea of control by codependents is one that is often overlooked when discussing relationships. We try to understand why people are targeted by self centered individuals and the affects of that (rightly so) but the idea that the codependent is controlling as well is not as easy to see…
Couples Therapy With A Narcissist? Avoid At All Costs!
A staggering amount of my clients who identify as codependent and are in a relationship with a self-centered or abusive partner have attempted couples therapy…
Codependency: Avoiding The Pitfalls Of The Adulation Stage
These heady moments we all encounter at the start of a new relationship mean that our general caution and common sense suddenly abandon us…
Codependency: Using The Right Tools To Heal
Codependency is a thinking and behavioral problem. Codependents buy into the idea, promoted by acquired shame, that they are unlovable …
Reflections on Group Therapy And The Need For Psychological Flexibility
I often ask myself that why it is that anxiety and depression are so common in a modern world where we should theoretically, be more content than we are. In comparison to fifty years ago, we should all be in peak physical and mental health…
Where Narcissists And Codependents Share Common Ground
Much of the content available online paint narcissists as monsters and codependents as victims. As most of the personal blogs that carry this content are seemingly written by people who have had a relationship with a narcissist that went badly, it is hardly surprising that they feel hard done by…
If You Are Codependent, Please Read
One of the reasons I work happily with codependents is that I am one myself with symptoms to a large extent worked through…