Family Theory Is An Important Consideration In Codependency And Shame
In therapy and especially with codependents, much time is spent trying to discover things. This includes why we act like we do, think like we do and we fall in love with the people we do…
Insights From Codependency Group Therapy
I am currently running a number of therapy groups. Being in a group for therapy is different to being an individual in therapy and the dynamic is different. Where in individual therapy…
Codependency: “Me Time” Is An Essential Part Of Any Relationship
Many people feel threatened when their partner asks for “space”. The immediate thought might be that they are ending the relationship or it is heading in the wrong direction…
How To Recover From Codependency: Find That Part Of You That Was Lost
Codependents gain a lot of strength from what they do for others. In fact, it is an essential process for them if they are to feel good about themselves. It is a never-ending quest for connection that unless unchecked…
Childhood: Where Codependency All Starts
It has been said that a large part of the global population is codependent on something or somebody. That something could be work, substances, alcohol. That something could be work, substances, alcohol. That somebody could be a partner, parent or boss…
Codependency And Addiction: Why The Disease Model Will Never Work
The term codependency has gone through various changes in meaning over the years. Originally, it was only used to describe anyone who stayed in a relationship with a substance user and enabled that behaviour…
The Value Of Assignments In Therapy Cannot Be Understated
One of my clients said to me the other day that she had seen many therapists but no-one like me. While I was still trying to work out whether this was a compliment or not, she clarified this by saying…
The Lengths That Some Will Go To Keep Their Partner Happy
There is a storyline that runs in the well-known tv series Breaking Bad when one of the main characters rents a house from a woman who he develops a relationship with. As he is an addict, she also falls into the same addiction “because she loves him”. In the end this “love” proves her downfall as her “normal” life descends into addiction hell…
Fantasy Will Keep The Worst Of Relationships Going
How many of us have been in relationships we just know are going nowhere but we hang on untill the bitter end?…