Codependents Need To Learn To Feel
Developmental trauma is the root cause of codependency. By trauma, I mean that a codependent in childhood sought but never attained connection with a caregiver…
Annihilation of the Self :The Role Of Relational Trauma In Shame
Chronic or toxic shame is something that we all have to deal with but do our best to hide. It is the part of us that we want to keep dark. Bringing it into the light means looking at the very core of who we really think we are…
Fear Getting Close To Anyone? You Could Be Counter-dependent
The media and TV often celebrate people who are “strong”. Especially in the western world, strength is indicative of the ability to get things done, have a mindset of ambition…
The Drama Triangle: A Key Element Of Codependent Control
I have often documented here how much control exists in codependent thinking. In contrast to their nemesis (someone with narcissist tendencies), codependents are generally nice people who are willing…
Codependents Involved With Narcissists: Life After Narcissism – Further Toxic Or Nourishing? It Is Your Choice!
What comes next when your worst nightmare is over? Many codependents who manage to extract themselves from toxic or narcissistic relationships are often left with this question…
Codependency: “I Know It Logically But Emotionally, I Don’t Get It”!
Many codependents I work with are stuck in relationships that are abusive, unfulfilling and going nowhere. The sad thing is that they are also going nowhere and stay when they know they should logically leave. Somehow they cannot muster the courage to do it…
Codependents Involved With Narcissists: Why Would You Let Anyone Treat You Like That?
As a therapist and a person who deals in reality and common sense in my own life, it is hard to see some of the decisions that other people make in the name of love and devotion…
Codependency: How to Reparent Yourself With An Adult That Has Been Exiled
We have a real problem with staying the moment and for some, it is unfamiliar territory. For some others, it is dangerous territory where reality bites…
Codependents Involved With Narcissists – The Three Stages of Narcissist Relationships: A Roller-Coaster Ride
Narcissists are the archetypal Jekyll and Hyde characters, one way one moment, one way the next. A roller-coaster ride for anyone involved with them. When we become involved in a new relationship…