Obsessed With That Certain Someone? Look To Developmental Issues
It’s is very often that I come across clients who are obsessed with someone. The level of obsession is so high that it often means that normal life cannot carry on without some form of validation…
Codependency: You CAN Think Your Way Out Of A Situation You Behaved Your Way Into
As children, we soak up the environment we grow up in like a sponge. If our parents tell us something, however wrong or abusive, we believe them. We have no choice because children do not know any different and have no alternative to tap into. The fact that children are programmed for connection for the early part of their lives consolidates this…
How Codependents Control… Examining Codependent Behaviour
Codependency is complex and is as individual as the people who exhibit its symptoms. It is often misunderstood and often not recognized by mental health professionals who doubt its existence…
Why Codependents Accept Abuse: They Are Attached To The Conceptualised Self.
In the course of our lives, we gather a lot of information about who we are. It starts in childhood and is a continuous process. The most powerful information we receive is that given to us by caregivers at a time in our lives when we are like “sponges” and we take it all in to form a blueprint for life. Sometimes the information is not correct or based on caregivers’ own perceptions of the world but it still comes our way and we believe it…
You Are Not Flawed Because Your Parents Let You Down. Codependency In Context
As someone who deals regularly with the concept of codependency, it means I have to deal with the concepts of child development too. Let’s face it, the way we grow up, where and who with, are all major factors in the root cause and development of codependency as a behavioral issue…
Not All Group Therapy Is The Same
I am just about to start a new round of group therapy for codependency. I have been running them since the beginning of the year and I have enjoyed them. I believe the participants felt the same…
Codependency Is A Connection Issue. Watch The Honeymoon Period!
A short search on the internet will find you a whole array of information on and descriptions of codependency. I actually did just that before starting here and found it defined as “the love addiction” or “codependency personality disorder”…
Enmeshment Means Codependents Lose Themselves
Codependency is not something you can take a pill for. It is not something that you can quickly shed like a winter jacket. Codependency is an issue that starts early in life and will continue until an awareness and will is found to change things…
We Can Be So Hard On Ourselves
Why is this? Why do we constantly fail to be compassionate with ourselves even when we seem to be able to offer it to others? Why do we find it so hard to find a compassionate voice amongst our emotional traffic? Why do we consider ourselves not good enough, unlovable, unworthy?…