William: The Final Say
I spent a good amount of time interviewing Will about his life. I am not going to be his therapist for obvious reasons but looking at his case has been useful to think about how others who are suffering can be helped…
The Anatomy Of A Shamed Codependent: Day 5 And Final Entry
By the time we had reached this point, William was very upset. We needed to take various breaks in order for him to find composure and avoid the memories that were flooding back…
The Anatomy Of A Shamed Codependent: Day 4
As William moves towards his teenage years, he enters what Is termed as the counter dependent stage of his life. Typically between the ages of about seven and twelve…
The Anatomy Of A Shamed Codependent: Day 3
William recognizes in this entry that he started to feel shame and was given growing responsibility for siblings, making him a caregiver…
The Anatomy Of A Shamed Codependent: A Life Story – Day 2
We continue here William’s recollections of his early childhood. As stated in Day 1, he has recognized and acknowledged his shame and codependency and is documenting his experiences…
The Anatomy Of A Shamed Codependent: A Life Story – Day 1
What is it really like to be so shamed and codependent that you lose your identity completely and fully? What could have happened to such a person that put them in this state? …
Connect With Yourself By Talking With Your Internal Family: A Real-life Depiction
I truly believe that the way we think about ourselves and the world we live in greatly determines the way we behave and act. We get that conditioning in childhood, good or not so good, and it is added to by gained experience over a period of time…
The Drama Triangle: A Key Element Of Codependent Control
I have often documented here how much control exists in codependent thinking. In contrast to their nemesis (someone with narcissist tendencies), codependents are generally nice people who are willing…
Codependents Involved With Narcissists: Why Would You Let Anyone Treat You Like That?
As a therapist and a person who deals in reality and common sense in my own life, it is hard to see some of the decisions that other people make in the name of love and devotion…