Karpman’s Drama Triangle describes dysfunctional relationships where the people in the relationship shift between three roles, Persecutor, Rescuer, and Victim, all held in place by guilt and blame. Learn more about this and how it has affected my life personally. In addition, what I am doing about it. Generally, the factors below are helpful:

1.Get your needs met in a healthy way without control by asking directly for what you want. This is healthy and gives the other person clear and direct information about you. This will mean working on and giving up a victim status.

2.Consciously refuse to rescue others. Tell yourself that you will only do this if you are asked or you have been given permission to do so. This will mean taking a step back and working on your Inner Dictator thoughts.

3.Look at how you judge others and any projections you have. This is where an awareness of anger and self-esteem is essential. Projections often give us valuable information concerning the way we see ourselves. It could be that anger and projection were part of the family system of childhood and these issues have been adopted.

4.Become aware of any developmental trauma and triggers. We can often see the presence of unhealed trauma in the drama triangle due to over-reaction and instant anger.

5.Learn to express thoughts and feelings clearly in the moment rather than saving them up until an explosion happens.

6.Become aware of how the drama triangle has served your needs as a codependent to enable, control and play the victim. Learn about the roots of your codependency.

7.Learn the value of setting and accepting healthy boundaries in any relationship and look at the type of people you are normally drawn to.

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